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I’m Amber – a mum, Defence partner, and business owner figuring out all’o’the things as I go.
Defence life isn’t predictable. The relocations, the shifting routines, the never-ending juggle of work, family, and everything in between – it’s a lot. I know, because I live it too.
Boots Back Home is here to make it easier. A space for Defence partners, parents, and small business owners to find support, connection, and real-world ways to bring calm to the chaos. Whether it’s navigating life on the move, building a flexible business, or making time for yourself in the middle of it all – this is for you.
Welcome to Boots Back Home – where we talk about the things that matter: life, business, and the moments in between.
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Home Is Where They Send Us
The Defence life is one of constant change – new homes, new routines, and the ever-present challenge of finding stability in the chaos. Here, we talk about the moves, the memories, and the moments that shape life on the home front.
What I Wish I Knew Before My Partner Enlisted
Military life is full of surprises. Here’s what I wish I’d known before my partner enlisted in the ADF, plus tips for surviving (and even thriving) through the changes.
What To Expect When They’re Enlisting..
Your partner’s joining the ADF.. now what? Here’s what to expect as a Defence partner during enlistment and training, from communication blackouts to emotional curveballs.
The Power of Connection (Especially When You’re the New One, Again)
Connection isn’t always easy to build in Defence life, but it matters. Here’s why community connection is so important for wellbeing, and what it can look like even when you’re new, shy, or starting over.
Losing Yourself in Parenthood (and Finding the Way Back)
Parenthood can change everything, including your sense of self. Here’s an honest reflection on identity loss in motherhood, and how to reconnect with the ‘you’ that still exists underneath it all.
Why Minimalism Just Makes Sense for Military Families
Defence life means moving often, adjusting constantly, and carrying a lot. Here’s how minimalism can reduce stress, save money, and help you feel grounded, no matter where you’re posted.
The Quiet Reality of Loneliness as a Defence Partner
The reality of being a defence parent can include loneliness and isolation, as frequent relocations and separations take their toll. This post discusses the emotional challenges faced by defence parents and offers insights into finding connection and support within the military community.
Cups, Not Candles
Self-care isn’t just about spa days and scented candles (though they help). It’s about setting boundaries, making space for yourself, and finding ways to thrive – without burning out in the process. Consider this your permission slip for self-kindness.
How to Save Money on One Income (and Reduce the Stress)
Living on one income doesn’t have to mean constant stress. Here are practical, low-pressure ways to reduce expenses and stretch your budget without burning out.
Why Minimalism Just Makes Sense for Military Families
Defence life means moving often, adjusting constantly, and carrying a lot. Here’s how minimalism can reduce stress, save money, and help you feel grounded, no matter where you’re posted.
30 Simple Ways to Recharge as a Defence Spouse (Without Overcomplicating It)
Military life is full on, and as Defence spouses, we carry a lot. Here are 30 real, doable self-care ideas to help you recharge, reconnect, and protect your energy.
When ChatGPT Gives You a Pep Talk
On 12th September, it was R U OK Day here in Australia. Truth be told, the last 12 months have been.. a lot. While I've nurtured our family through a bunch of health issues, it was a chain of...
The Key to Business Success through Self-Care
In today's hectic and demanding work environment, it's so darned easy to prioritise our professional lives over our personal well-being. While it may seem counterintuitive, neglecting self-care can...
Dealing with Financial Stress as a Defence Parent
The Reality of Financial Stress in Defence Life Military families are often seen as financially secure - but that’s not always the case. Defence life comes with its own set of financial challenges:...
The Everyday Edit
A collection of life’s small joys – books, places, moments, and the things that make Defence life (and life in general) a little richer.
Explore local: Valley Pride Produce
When it comes to eating seasonally, locally, or as fresh as possible, you really can't beat eating straight from the farm itself. Today when visiting Quibble Market at the Ipswich Showgrounds, I had...
Explore local: Junee Licorice and Chocolate Factory
If you're ever visiting Wagga Wagga region, you need to add the Junee Licorice and Chocolate Factory to your list of places to visit. Located in Junee, about 30 minutes north of Wagga, there is...
Business, But Make It Flexible
Running a business as a Defence partner means making it work – wherever, whenever, and however you need to. Whether you’re starting fresh, scaling up, or figuring out how to fit work around life (not the other way around), this is where we keep it real.
What the Heck is a Capacity Advocate (and Do You Need One)?
Capacity advocacy is about recognising your limits and creating a sustainable work-life balance. Learn how advocating for your capacity can protect you from burnout, improve productivity, and allow you to focus on what truly matters. Embrace a healthier, more balanced approach to work with these essential strategies.
Why Kindness (Not Just Capability) Is Your Secret Weapon as a VA
The concept of gentle business as a virtual assistant, focusing on sustainable growth, compassion, and meaningful client relationships.
When ChatGPT Gives You a Pep Talk
On 12th September, it was R U OK Day here in Australia. Truth be told, the last 12 months have been.. a lot. While I've nurtured our family through a bunch of health issues, it was a chain of...
The Key to Business Success through Self-Care
In today's hectic and demanding work environment, it's so darned easy to prioritise our professional lives over our personal well-being. While it may seem counterintuitive, neglecting self-care can...
A Look At My Own Virtual Business Setup
Ever wondered what it looks like behind the scenes as a Virtual Assistant? Here is a sneak peek into my space, and the tools that I use.
Outsourcing as Self-Kindness (Not Just a Business Decision)
Outsourcing isn’t just a smart business move; it’s an act of self-kindness. Handing over the admin and mental load can be the first step toward more ease, better boundaries, and a business that feels sustainable.
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Stepping into military life comes with a lot of unknowns – relocations, new routines, and adjusting to a world with its own language and expectations. Whether you’re just starting this journey or supporting someone who is, this guide breaks down some things to expect, tips on how to prepare, and where to find support.
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