Defence family life
Deployment is an emotional rollercoaster. One minute, you’re thriving; the next, you’re crying because their side of the bed is empty. From the dramatic goodbye to the sweet spot of having the whole house to yourself, every Defence spouse goes through a weirdly predictable series of emotions. Some days, you’ll feel like you’ve got it all together. Other days? Everything will break at once, and you’ll just have to laugh (or cry) through it.
Wellness
Defence life is unpredictable. It’s built on constant change, last-minute plans, and a level of uncertainty that makes managing a chronic illness even harder. Living with rheumatoid arthritis while juggling relocations, solo parenting, and an ever-changing routine isn’t easy. Some days, I manage. Other days, I don’t. But I’ve learned to prioritise rest, build a support system beyond my husband, and adapt in ways I never thought possible.
Challenges
Self-care isn’t just bubble baths and spa days (though those count too!). It’s the quiet moments, the small routines, the things that make you feel more like yourself. Whether it’s a morning coffee, time spent reading, getting outside, or simply taking a deep breath, every act of care matters.
Wellness
Military life can be overwhelming when you’re an introvert. The constant moves, social events, and pressure to build connections can feel exhausting – but you don’t have to force yourself to be an extrovert to make it work. The key is finding your way to connect, setting boundaries around your energy, and focusing on quality friendships over quantity. Not every event needs a yes, and not every connection has to be instant.
Defence family life
Defence life is often romanticised, but the reality is far more complicated. Behind the pride and resilience is the loneliness of long separations, the exhaustion of constant moves, and the struggle to find a real sense of belonging. Not every friendship will last, not every base will feel like home, and not every day will be filled with unwavering strength. The key isn’t just surviving this life – it’s finding ways to make it work for you.