Wellness
Defence life is unpredictable. It’s built on constant change, last-minute plans, and a level of uncertainty that makes managing a chronic illness even harder. Living with rheumatoid arthritis while juggling relocations, solo parenting, and an ever-changing routine isn’t easy. Some days, I manage. Other days, I don’t. But I’ve learned to prioritise rest, build a support system beyond my husband, and adapt in ways I never thought possible.
Defence family life
Frequent moves make friendships complicated. Some connections will be instant, others will be fleeting, and some will fade despite your best efforts. It’s the reality of Defence life – constantly saying hello and goodbye, sometimes feeling at home, and sometimes feeling completely out of place. Not every friendship will last forever, but that doesn’t make them less important. The key is knowing which ones are worth the effort and letting go of the guilt when some naturally fade.
Defence family life
Many of us struggle to ask for help, feeling like we should handle everything on our own. But the truth? No one does life alone. Asking for and accepting help gracefully isn’t a sign of weakness, it’s a recognition that support makes us stronger. Whether it’s childcare, work, or just emotional support, reaching out can feel uncomfortable, but it’s also necessary. This post explores why we find it hard to ask for help, how to do it without guilt, and how to accept it with grace. Because the reality is, we’re all better when we lean on each other.
Wellness
Military life is unique, but it doesn’t have to define your entire identity. It’s easy to get caught up in the roles and responsibilities of being a military spouse, yet your goals, passions, and personal growth are just as important. Whether it’s pursuing a career, rediscovering hobbies, or building connections beyond Defence circles, there are ways to create a life that reflects you. Your identity is more than just supporting a partner in uniform—you are a person with your own ambitions, talents, and interests. This post explores how to reclaim and nurture your sense of self while embracing the realities of military life.
Defence family life
Nothing fully prepares you for military life until you’re living it. When my partner enlisted, I thought I knew what to expect – deployments, moves, time apart – but there were so many things I didn’t see coming. The constant goodbyes, the waiting, the pride, and the way this life changes you as much as them. Looking back, there are things I wish I had known that would have made the transition easier. If you’re just starting this journey, this post shares what I’ve learned – the hard parts, the unexpected joys, and the small moments that make it all worth it.