When your life revolves around postings, deployments, and the ever-changing schedule of Defence life, it can feel impossible to set personal goals – let alone achieve them. Plans change, careers are interrupted, and consistency is hard to come by.
It can often feel like the only consistency is inconsistency.
But just because military life is unpredictable doesn’t mean your goals don’t matter.
Whether it’s pursuing a career, starting a business, studying, or working towards a personal passion, your dreams are valid. They might look different from someone with a more stable lifestyle, but that doesn’t mean they’re out of reach.
Here’s how to make your goals fit your reality.
1. Define Success on Your Own Terms
A traditional career path or life plan might not be realistic when Defence life keeps moving the goalposts. But success isn’t one-size-fits-all. What matters is what feels right for you.
Do you want financial independence?
Flexibility?
A creative outlet?
A sense of achievement?
Identifying what success looks like for you helps you stay focused, even when plans shift.
2. Find Adaptable Pathways
Military life forces you to be flexible, and that can work in your favour. Look for ways to make your goals move with you.
- Career Goals: Remote work, freelance roles, or Defence-friendly employers can keep you employed no matter where you’re posted.
- Education Goals: Online study, short courses, or micro-credentials allow you to keep learning, even with an unpredictable schedule.
- Business Goals: Running your own business or side hustle can offer the flexibility you need while still providing purpose and income.
3. Break It Down into Manageable Steps
Big goals can feel overwhelming, especially when military life throws curveballs. Instead of focusing on the end result, break your goal into small, achievable steps. What’s one thing you can do this week? Progress – even small progress – adds up.
4. Lean on Your Support Network
It’s easy to put your own goals last when you’re constantly supporting your partner’s career. But you don’t have to do it alone. Find support where you can – whether it’s friends, family, an online community, or other Defence partners who get it. The right people will remind you that your dreams matter too.
5. Give Yourself Permission to Pivot
Defence life will throw challenges your way. That doesn’t mean your goals are impossible – it just means they might need to evolve. Changing direction isn’t failure. It’s resilience. If your original plan no longer fits, adjust and keep going.
Your Goals Are Worth Pursuing
Defence life may demand flexibility, but it doesn’t mean you have to give up on what matters to you. Your dreams, ambitions, and personal growth are just as important as the life you build around military commitments. It’s not about waiting for the “right time” – it’s about making your goals work within the life you have now.
No matter where you are or what stage of life you’re in, your goals are valid. You matter, and you are allowed (and worthy, and deserving) of looking after your own needs.