
Simplifying Defence Life:
Stories, Tools & Connection
for Families Like Yours
(from someone who’s been there)
Welcome! I’m Amber, a proud defence partner and mum, dedicated to supporting families like ours.
Through personal experiences and practical advice, I aim to make defence life a bit simpler and more connected for you.
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“You are imperfect, you are wired for struggle, but you are worthy of love and belonging.”
— Brené Brown

The Emotional Stages of Deployment for Spouses
Deployment is an emotional rollercoaster. One minute, you’re thriving; the next, you’re crying because their side of the bed is empty. From the dramatic goodbye to the sweet spot of having the whole house to yourself, every Defence spouse goes through a weirdly predictable series of emotions. Some days, you’ll feel like you’ve got it all together. Other days? Everything will break at once, and you’ll just have to laugh (or cry) through it.
The Emotional Stages of Deployment for Spouses
Deployment is an emotional rollercoaster. One minute, you’re thriving; the next, you’re crying because their side of the bed is empty. From the dramatic goodbye to the sweet spot of having the whole house to yourself, every Defence spouse goes through a weirdly predictable series of emotions. Some days, you’ll feel like you’ve got it all together. Other days? Everything will break at once, and you’ll just have to laugh (or cry) through it.
Dealing with Financial Stress as a Defence Parent
The Reality of Financial Stress in Defence Life Military families are often seen as financially secure - but that’s not always the case. Defence life comes with its own set of financial challenges: the cost of moving every few years, the struggle...
Living with a Chronic Illness as a Defence Spouse
Defence life is unpredictable. It’s built on constant change, last-minute plans, and a level of uncertainty that makes managing a chronic illness even harder. Living with rheumatoid arthritis while juggling relocations, solo parenting, and an ever-changing routine isn’t easy. Some days, I manage. Other days, I don’t. But I’ve learned to prioritise rest, build a support system beyond my husband, and adapt in ways I never thought possible.
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